29-year-old Felicity has been only sleep with men over 50 twice her age for the past four years. And she’s got no plans to stop any time soon…
With the release of the new Zac Efron and Robert DeNiro film, Dirty Grandpa, firmly at the front of our minds, we wanted to find out more about age-gap relationships. So we spoke to Felicity, 29, from London about her very unique approach to dating. She only goes for men twice her age…
“My name is Felicity* and I only sleep with older men. I first began dating 50+ men four years ago, when I was 25. Ever since I was young I’d always been attracted to older guys, but as I got older I just loved the calibre of successful wealthy silver foxes. And there’s something about grey hair that just really turns me on.
“I wanted a taste of an indulgent lifestyle, as well as an experienced gent. And there was an essence of being naughty and wrong, which also really appeals to me.
“So I was very aware that there was something there, and it seemed that older men would gravitate towards me when I was out, too. But I didn’t take the plunge until a friend of mine suggested I would be perfect for that scene, so I gave it a go. I signed up to a website called Sugardaddy, and instantly knew it was for me.
I was on cloud nine for days
“The first time I slept with an older gent was pretty insane. The whole evening consisted of champagne, good food and a decadent atmosphere. I remember catching a cab with him and just before turning to go home I grabbed his thigh, which was rock solid. This man was on the younger side, being 49, and was in a fantastic physical condition. One thing led to another, and I ended up staying the night in his penthouse apartment.
“The sex was steamy, and his attentive ways during foreplay were so satisfying. I was on cloud nine for days.
“The oldest man I’ve dated was 65 the time and we had sex several times. It was great; older guys seem to be so much more passionate and self-assured of their performance. They want to please you, whereas some encounters with guys my age have left me very unsatisfied.
“I love to dress up in sexy lingerie, which most older guys will happily purchase, and they really appreciate it. The best sex I’ve had has been with older gents. One time a man picked me up and, while standing, went down on me. He finished the job in a minute. It pretty much blew my mind.
It gives me a euphoric power trip
“But it’s the lifestyle, too. I’ve been doused with diamonds, outfits, money and shopping trips to the likes of Selfridges and Harrods. I haven’t managed to grasp a car or anything like that yet, but I’ve eaten in pretty much all the top restaurants in London and I’ve had fantastic champagne.
“It gives me the kind of lifestyle I desire but wouldn’t necessarily be able to afford. I wouldn’t be able to afford £200 dresses or coats myself. Or lavish nights out, fancy dining, anything like that.
“And it makes me feel good about myself. There’s this euphoric sort of power trip that comes out in me. I’m quite gregarious as a person anyway, and I do have the mindset that money just appeals to me. It gives me a sense of status in life.
“When I live this lifestyle, I feel as if this is exactly where I should be and what I should be doing. I’m like a lady of leisure. I don’t mean to sound condescending towards men, but that’s what runs through my mind.
“I don’t see my dating as actual relationships; more like a mutual exchange. We both benefit. I’ve got a little network that I’m able to play upon, and sometimes I’ll see multiple people at the same time. But no more than two or three.
“One guy I’ve been seeing on and off for a good few years. Not consistently, but we might meet up once a for a couple of months, and then cool it for a bit.
“Sometimes I question whether this is the right thing to be doing, if it’s the right way to go. Maybe it could back fire on me, but if everyone’s happy and I’m not putting a gun to their heads and asking to be wined and dined, then I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. I have these guys chasing after me and I’m simply obliging.
“My parents don’t exactly know about my older men. I’ll openly chat to them about gentlemen here and there, but they didn’t know that I was dating the 65 year old, for example. My sister does; nothing surprises her, and she respects me for going after what I am curious about and interested in.
“I know that if my parents knew exactly who I was dating, they would definitely have something to say about it. I think they’d be worried that I was selling myself to someone. But the way I see it, what I’m doing doesn’t affect them.
It’s nobody else’s business
“I’ve never had any of my close friends say anything negative to me about who I date. I’ve always had 110% support and if someone did have something bad to say, I would just tell them that I’m looking after myself, so they should concentrate looking after their own self. We’re not doing anything wrong and it’s nobody else’s business.
“One day I think I’d like to settle down, and I wouldn’t rule out settling down with someone older. I wouldn’t be put off unless he was very, very old and it would have implications for having a family. I’m very spontaneous and quite impulsive so I would just go on whatever feels right and makes me feel good.
“But for the time being, I’m going to be selfish because I want to experience what I want to experience and I can’t give someone all of me if I’m still looking for new experiences. This is me, and I’m being very honest about it. There’s nothing wrong with being open about what you want, is there?”
*Name has been changed.